Like I said yesterday…
On my own unique journey through life, I’ve learned to choose happy, joyful and positive thoughts during challenging times
in situations that are trying to bring me down.
I have learned to embrace the mantra
“that it was only a mistake if I didn’t learn anything from it.
If I learned something from it, it was a LESSON.”
I read a great quote the other day on the internet,
“Some people are lucky– but the harder I work the luckier I get!”
What they’re seeing is an end result that looks effortless and easy, but it came from more than 20 years of ups and downs– and endless attempts at learning to paint and write.
My grandfather taught my father to always look ahead.
He used to say, “Have the next tool ready for me when I need it–that way we can finish this project sooner.”
I apply that approach in all areas of my life, whether I am working at the school,
painting a mural,
or helping a friend.
I envision how I must prepare for the next task at hand– and I gather the tools and knowledge that I need before moving ahead.
But a good work ethic applies to much more than just our jobs.
When I was a young mother, I ate a lot of junk food and survived on soda.
I never knew how to eat properly and in my early twenties, I put on a lot of weight.
By the end of my thirties, I was not healthy at all. I had a check up where I was told that I needed to begin taking over 10 pills a day just to keep myself going.
I REFUSED to take the easy way out by swallowing a bunch of pills every day, and instead fought back.
I told the doctor that I was unhealthy because I had spent over ten years treating my body like it was a vending machine.
I vowed to learn how to eat healthier, lose weight, and begin a daily exercise routine.
Now at the age of 44, I weigh less than I did when I was 24.
My doctor no longer thinks I need medication, I am a very healthy woman.
In order to regain my health, I needed a strong work ethic to carry me through the task.
I try to live my life by this personal quote of mine:
“If you do good, good will come upon you.”
I hope that you all have a wonderful weekend.
Do something fun with your family. Make some memories together.
In the past, my life was overwhelming.
It was full of sadness,
and even, the death of a child.
BUT… through mindset and beliefs, I slowly began to discover that inside of myself there lived a power that was capable of designing my life in any way I decided I wanted it to look.
I had a creative force that was lying dormant inside of me that could paint the picture of my life in much the same way that I paint murals.
I first needed to decide on the style of picture.
Then narrow it down to a specific idea,
and then use my paintbrush to bring it to life.
Yesterday, my teenage daughter presented me with a situation that was difficult for me to hear and accept.
I had a choice in that moment with her to either get angry and REJECT her ideas and cause her pain…
Listen to her side of the story and use this moment as a teaching opportunity.
I chose to teach her about life.
I chose NOT to crush her fragile spirit with my hurt feelings,
Rather be her parent and guide her through adolescence gently and carefully so that she to will learn how to create HAPPINESS in her very own life.
We control our responses.
We control our happiness.
We can choose happy,
just as easily as
we can choose
I have discovered that when I Follow the Stimulus→Belief→Response method
I am reminded almost constantly that:
I am in full control of my happiness and the design I choose for each and every single day of my life.
If you are like me,
DEEP inside you don’t feel any different than you did at age ten or twelve,
That you likely don’t play baseball anymore,
AND you probably haven’t done a somersault in years.
(I am not suggesting you start.)
If you really stop and think about it long and hard…
Everything you did as a kid required TRYING & FAILING.
Climbing a tree,
Riding a bike,
or tying your shoes
You had no embarrassment or shame –
only a desire to go faster to learn and master all of the exciting things that were ahead of you.
One of the most powerful ways you can immediately Rid yourself from fear of failure is to start learning RIGHT NOW how you can let go of what other people think about you.
Oh and another thing, failures teach you valuable lessons just like they did when you were young.
Ever burn your hand on a hot stove?
See, you never did that again, did you?
Have you ever spent much time around a child?
If so, you know that they NEVER stop asking questions.
When you were young you were the very same way.
You asked questions all the time because you were curious.
We start to just assume we can predict what people are thinking.
We THINK we already KNOW what they will do.
Exactly how they will answer our question.
We assume they won’t buy,
they won’t help,
or that they are not interested.
Give other people the opportunity to say no and don’t make assumptions.
Okay, I am not suggesting you become a spoiled brat.
I am NOT advocating that you throw yourself down on the ground and pound your fists and feet until you get your own way…
I am just trying to jog your memory a little bit so I can help you remember the tenacity you had as a child.
Back then…One ‘no’ from someone was simply an invitation to open the conversation.
We got creative and bargained,
We learned how to persuade and convince –
(even if it was just for a nickel to buy a gumball.)
So don’t take that ‘no’ so easily.
Remember that NO is quite often the beginning of a relationship, and often ends in a YES if we are patient and positively persistent.
I hope that by now you are starting to remember all the hope and possibility you had as a kid and that it can be found once again.
YOU need to tap back into these traits to do it.
The BEST part about this mural was that she actually helped me paint it. She has displayed exceptional talent in the arts since she was two years old. So as you look at the pictures for this mural, keep in mind that she painted every bit from beginning to end on the mane and tail of the brown horse. She is only ten years old, so her talent is pretty incredible.
But for me, white walls are just a blank canvas that I can create a whole new world on.
The first thing I always do when I am painting a mural is get the background blocked in. Once you have established the position of the background, putting the main image into the painting becomes a whole lot easier.
I used a gray sky ACE hardware brand paint in semi gloss latex for the sky. For the ground I used the same brand in a Terra cotta color.
I like to use a overhead projector to blow the picture up. I will draw out the mural on a plastic paper and then use the machine to project it and make it life size. This saves me hours of painstaking drawing time. By doing it this way I am able to see exactly where I want the picture to sit on the wall, and know how the entire picture will look BEFORE I ever start drawing.
SO that is my time saving tip for the day
The first layer of paint will be a lot like coloring a page in a coloring book. There won”t really be any detail yet and the image will look very flat and lifeless at first, but don’t get discouraged. As each new layer of paint goes on, the more dimension your picture will acquire.
See how flat the horses look right now. That is NORMAL, and shouldn’t discourage you at all. Just keep on painting. It really does get a lot better. Here is another angle of the picture. From this angle you can see how that shadow I blocked in under the horses chin is already starting to create some dimension. In this picture you can see how I am starting to add the different shades of color to the horses skin and mane and tail. This simple act of using lighter and darker shades of the same base color will create the look of muscles on the horse, and give movement to the hair on the mane and tails. In this picture, you can see all the little details that I painted in the eye to make it look round and realistic. I also added some white to her face to give her a little bit more personality. We did the same thing with the black mare. We gave her eyes some detail and then extended her mane so it partially covered her eye. We wanted to give the illusion of a thick, bushy mane on the black horse. Here is the finished mural. To complete the background I painted the cactus using four different shades of green paint. By doing this I am able to give the illusion of a round object on a flat wall. Then we just added a few ground details and other desert plants to the wall and that completed the painting. This mural took us 10 hrs to complete.
Here are a few more pictures of the finished mural.
Anyone with kids knows that the last month of school is NON-STOP activity for the kids, and their parents.
At work, when springtime hits, my work load literally triples.
I still have the same amount of work to do inside the school that has kept me HOPPING all winter long,
Once Springtime arrives, I also have over 6 acres of lawns to maintain at the school.
It is important to me that the school looks well groomed and beautiful for my community and the students.
The part that is difficult these last few years has been the fact that the sprinkler system at the school is over 30 yrs old, and needs lot’s of tender loving care to keep it running properly.
So, by the time my day is finished at the school, I have no energy left to sit and write a quality blog.
I miss the release that I get when I put my thoughts down in writing.
Writing for me is such a powerful way to keep my head clear and my mind sharp.
But when the body is so physically exhausted, the mind does not seem to have much to say. 🙂
So I am crossing my fingers and hoping that by next week, I will have all the broken sprinklers replaced and working on their own.
Just know that I miss you all deeply and that you are in my prayers!
As I was watching the news this morning,
I heard a story of a stand off that led to the death of a canine officer.
The robbery of a bank.
The battles over which bathroom to use
And the immature rantings of the presidential candidates.
I was DISGUSTED!
I felt overwhelmed with worry about the future of our nation.
INSTEAD of focusing our attention on all of this negativity, and allowing ourselves to become discouraged by all the discord we see in the world,
We changed our focus to the one change that changes everything:
CHANGING HOW WE LEAD.
Leading is about our humanness,
And our interactions with each other.
Some people believe they have earned the right to be leaders.
Some are confident our experience or our education means we deserve to be leaders.
Some of us think we have inherited leadership from our ancestors.
Some people see themselves as having the personality or the ambition it takes to be a leader.
Some of us understand our leadership as coming from planning, or communication, or vision.
Some people want to lead by tapping into primal emotions, or by making a reasonable, logical case.
The leaders who inspire me,
whose examples I REMEMBER,
Cultivated in my heart a .
The leaders in my life who have made the biggest impact are those leaders who were convinced I had the potential to make a contribution, and they reminded me of that belief often.
A few of the seeds that they planted in my heart were:
#1: Leading is about possibility and potential.
#2: Leadership is about creativity and innovation.
#3: A good leader knows that their role is about maintaining the well-being and fulfillment and generating common good in the people around them.
#4: A leader knows how to focuses on a purpose and meaning, by using others connection and contributions.
#5: A leader knows how to collaborate and cooperate to solve common problems.
#6: Leading is about diminishing our three universal fears of not having support, not being in control and not feeling adequate, so that everyone thrives and realizes their potential.
#7: A good leader understands that leading with love means that we respond with care, understanding and respect.
Leading with love is a state of being.
It is a philosophy.
A unique approach to life that permeates all that we do.
Leading with love is an art that we should all practicing and attempt to master.
If you are a “follower”, I ask you to consider if the leaders you follow are there to support the common good and help each and every one of us to be the best we can be and have the life we want.
In this way, if you make this choice, you too will be leading with love.
We can change the world by changing our personal beliefs about this one thing:
What makes a leader a leader?
Remember this criterion: Love makes a leader a leader.
A great leader will naturally care for and understand the people they serve.
They will show a genuine respect for everyone and everything in life.
If you approached each and every situation in your life with this as your mantra…imagine the miracles you could create!
When I saw this picture, and read the quote, I instantly smiled.
I hope that it will cause the same reaction in you!
We are all much stronger than we give ourselves credit for.
This morning I shared a few tips to get you motivated to begin your Spring Cleaning.
I keep thinking I should have added some good information on PURGING our INNER Junk as well.
So here is PART 2 of the Spring Clean Motivation.
I have noticed that some people (unfortunately, myself included at times.) seem to believe that the proof that you have a healthy spiritual life is your ease and ability to acquire things.
We would love to have a new car or move into a different house, and we pray to obtain it.
Have you ever found yourself attempting to bargain with God to give you more and in return you promise to release the old things that no longer serve your current purposes?
We rationalize that if we had more, we would be committed to using it wisely.
We promise that we will work hard and be more careful so that we will use our new abundance to strengthen spiritual life and set the example of how to live a TRULY ABUNDANT LIFE.
Many of us act as though it is impossible to be either too thin or too rich.
We believe people with more wealth are blessed, while people are cursed when they have less.
But is that really the case?
Aren’t we also told to be content in all things. And to put our trust in the Lord, not our stuff?
Where did we get the idea that the things we have strengthen spiritual life.
I guess that I see spiritual life differently than some people do.
I can’t help but notice that there are people without a lot of possessions who experience deep, sacred, strong spiritual life.
There are people who possess everything they could possibly need or want who feel spiritually empty.
How can these things help me grow into more depth?
Do I really need that?
Why did we get this in the first place?