Brutal Honesty is SWEETER than sugar coated Lies

“The mystery and magic of being an individual is to live life in response to the deep call within – the call to become who we were dreamed to be.”

These words by Irish poet John O’Donohue capture the quest many of us are on.

One thing that I think is true for all of us is the fact that regardless of our age, race, or gender we’ve ALL fantasized about having “super powers” of some kind…


For example, think about the many popular books and movies about superheroes, wizards, mutants and people with psychic powers…

You can’t turn on your television without seeing a preview for some show featuring a person who has supernatural abilities of some kind.

We have made those authors and speakers who teach about manifestation into super stars. We envy and celebrate them because they seem to have mastered the art of “manifestation”…


Why are we so fascinated by these kinds of characters?


It’s because they have the abilities we all wish we had?

Or is it perhaps that we know we possess similar skills that are lying dormant buried deep inside of us, but require awakening and/or further development?

I think our fascination comes from the fact that these characters reflect our core desire to become the BEST,  most skillful and POWERFUL human beings we can be.


I bet that in your heart of hearts you know that you have a great life to live…


Even a meaningful contribution to make in the world.

We all have…

And only through discovering and bringing to life this hidden potential will we be able to find true spiritual fulfillment and the deeper sense of happiness we’re longing for.

But it takes work and dedication to bring that kind of potential to life.

So why are some people able to do that, while others suffer through life never once finding the happiness or purpose they are craving?

Here is the short answer:

You are not a result of your circumstances,

You are a result of your choices.

Now here is the long, and often difficult answer:

It is not the experiences you are presented with in life that define you.

It is the way in which you handle them that eventually will define who you are.

The real test in life is NOT the trials but how you grow from them.

It not the fact that you have faced difficulties in your life, but instead it is who you become while facing them.


You are NOT a result of your circumstances, you are a result of your choices.

Let me put it to you this way:

In every moment you have the choice to be an inspirational person

In every moment you have the choice to behave like your most remarkable self…

In every moment you have the choice to listen deeply to your heart…

In every moment you get the choice to empower yourself.

In every moment you have the opportunity to create your ideal future…

In every moment you have the chance to truly engage deeply with the world…

Every single moment you are alive you have the choice to say “YES” to life…

In every moment you choose to embody your potential.

This is it.

It is really that simple.

And Yet the world is clear full of people who REFUSE to take responsibility for their life and the experiences that they are having.

They insist on blaming anyone that crosses their path for the problems that they are having.

When the only person who REALLY has any power to influence or change their situation is themselves.

Because think about it…

You are either inspirational…


you’re not.

You are either fully engaging with your life


you’re not.

You are either driven by the energy of love


you’re not.


You are either following your passions


you’re not.

You are either consciously creating your 



you’re not.


You get to make these same choices everyday.

So, I am going to ask you…

What do you choose?

I am going to place the responsibility for your life and your experiences RIGHT SQUARE in YOUR lap where it belongs.

Try to Start taking just two small seconds to pause before you do things and ask yourself questions like these and see if this shift in your behavior doesn’t change EVERYTHING about your life experience.

What are you choosing when you…..

Engage in drama or gossip?

When you waste precious hours scrolling through the endless feeds of social media?


How often do you zone out in front of the television?

Why are you choosing to stay in that relationship that’s only bringing you pain?


These are all choices.

YOUR Choices!

And, whether consciously or not, you are the only one who has the opportunity to choose for yourself in every moment.
It’s those internal choices you make that inevitably create your external reality.

What if, instead, you were to…..

Make the choice to be:



Revolutionize the way you love.

Follow your heart.

Say yes to your passions.

Embrace your remarkable future.

What if those choices changed your life?

When I took responsibility for my INTERNAL life, my EXTERNAL life began to reflect that responsibility.

I no longer believed that I was a victim of my circumstances.

I took responsibility for the role I had played in my life. I went deep inside myself to examine where I had gone wrong.

Where I needed healing.

Where I needed support.

Where I needed Change.



It was NOT easy being so brutally honest with myself.

brutal honesty


It was nearly impossible at times to control my ego and tame it so that I could get past the pain and heal.

But It was DEFINITELY worth each and every tear I shed to get where I am today.

Today I now live a life that in the past I could only dream was possible. I follow my passions. I am safe, loved and very very content in life right now and all of that is possible for all of you too…

Because changing your life is as simple as changing your choices.




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