The Art of Surrender Day 18: Surrender to your Super Power

“There is something about words. In expert hands, manipulated deftly, they take you prisoner. Wind themselves around your limbs like spider silk, and when you are so enthralled you cannot move, they pierce your skin, enter your blood, numb your thoughts. Inside you they work their magic.” 

― Diane SetterfieldThe Thirteenth Tale







I love this quote, and read it often to remind myself just how powerful our words really are.

Our words are our Super Power.

So, that being said, are you one of the good guys in the Super Hero comic, or are you the villain?

That is a very powerful question that you should be asking yourself often.

In (Proverbs 18:21) we read, “The tongue has the power of life and death,
    and those who love it will eat its fruit.”

William Booththe founder of the Salvation Army, which is a great social and spiritual organization, was confronted with a serious financial crisis. He was urged by those closest to him to write a letter to his previous supporters.

He might have been pressured to write a compelling letter about how much money was needed in order to make ends meet.

He could have gone on and on about the good they were doing.

Like many organizations today, he could have filled the letter with the stories of desperation or of people whose lives were changed because of the Salvation Army.

Booth, however, took a totally different approach to asking his constituency for help.

He took up his pen and boldly wrote only one word: others.

He sent the letter out, and the organization was generously supported through this very difficult time.


Your words are one of the most powerful forces you possess.

The spoken word has the power to build people up and give them pleasure, as well as to destroy them and zap their pleasure.

Just look at the following list, and I think that you’ll get the point:

  • You’re so smart.

  • You can do anything.

  • You’re capable.

  • You’re so stupid.

  • You can’t do anything.

  • You’re incapable.

You can easily feel the strength of the words in the left column, along with the pain of those in the right column—especially if you’ve heard them before.

I want you to take a moment and consider how you use the power of your words.

Think first in terms of your primary relationship with yourself and your spouse or significant other, parents, children, and God.

Are your words mostly encouraging?

Or are they rough, critical and sarcastic?

For an illustration,let’s go back to the scripture we just read from Proverbs. In that verse, our we are told that our words have the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.

So, here’s a way to look at it:

fruit bowl

If your words were fruit, what would others taste from you?

You can pause and think about this.

It’s critical in a pleasure lifestyle to give good fruit to all people and especially to those closest to you, your family.

Then journey down and examine your secondary relationships:

That is, your friends, co-workers, and neighbors.

What kind of fruit are they getting from you?

Then look at the acquaintances and strangers you meet—what about them?

If you question how you’re doing, keep track for fun sometime.

Take a piece of paper and record the negative words you’re speaking on one side and the encouraging words on the other.

You might be surprised by how the experiment turns out.

Either way, you do have the power to positively impact others, so I encourage you to use words regularly and recognize that they are your super power.

And, once again, let’s ask ourselves the question,

Are we the good guy or the villain?

Words are creative.

You create your life with your words.

Actually, you prophesy your own future with your words.

Sounds comes before sight.

The law of attraction states that whatever you give your attention, energy and words to is what you create in your own life.

Scientists have discovered that they can measure the vibrational level of words.


I recently read a study that I found to be very interesting because of my love of plants. My home is filled with big, healthy plants that are my companions.

In this study, people would talk to their plants, something that I do every day.










They had two control groups.

One group was told to speak positive words to their plants such as “you are such a beautiful plant.

The 2nd group was instructed to speak negative words to their plants.

The results were astounding.

Both set of plants continued to received that same level of light and water.

The plants whose owners spoke positive words to them seem to flourish, bloom and grow.

The plants whose owners were told to speak negative words began to notice that their plants became stagnant, whither and some died.

The Power of Words!

Of course, most of you know about the remarkable scientific discovery of. Dr. Masaru Emoto, a creative and visionary Japanese researcher.

Dr. Emoto conducted a study on human consciousness and words on water.

A photograph was taken of 2 glasses of water.

Dr. Emoto had participants to speak negative words to one glass of water and positive words to the other glass.

Before and after pictures were taken.

An amazing discovery was revealed.


The molecular structure of water was affected by human vibrational energy thoughts and words.

The glass of water that had positive words spoken to it was more beautiful, glowing and clear.

The glass of water that had negative words spoken to it changed from a clear form to distorted one.

Your words are so power that they can change things.

The bible states that Life and Death are in the power of the tongue.

So what have you been saying about your life?

Maybe it’s the words that you have been speaking.

Remember, your confession precedes your possession.

You possess what you confess.

Realization follows confession.

Start today to use your very own, God-given super power…your words!





Here is our painting job from June 18 &19, 2014

The customer wanted to take her grey kitchen and update it with a bright yellow. The transformation was breath taking.

The customer wanted to take her grey kitchen and update it with a bright yellow. The transformation was breath taking.

Here is the grey color that was on the walls in the kitchen

Here is the grey color that was on the walls in the kitchen

Here is what the family room looked like on day 1. When we are finished, it will have textured walls and wood beams around the window. All done with paint.

Here is what the family room looked like on day 1. When we are finished, it will have textured walls and wood beams around the window. All done with paint.

The walls were all base coated with a peach, terra cotta base coat to prep them for the texture, and wood beams

The walls were all base coated with a peach, terra cotta base coat to prep them for the texture, and wood beams

Here is a view of the family room walls before we added the texture

Here is a view of the family room walls before we added the texture

here is a close up view of the wood grain that we painted on the walls to give the illusion of the window being framed with wood beams.

here is a close up view of the wood grain that we painted on the walls to give the illusion of the window being framed with wood beams.

Here are the finished wood beams. We did this all with paint and glaze.

Here are the finished wood beams. We did this all with paint and glaze.

Here is another view of the kitchen with the grey walls

My favorite Past- time, Searching For historical Rock Art In Emery County, Utah

My sweetheart, Jeff and I share a common passion. We both love the rich history that abounds in the area we live in.

The area is filled with rock art images from several different tribes. These pictures are all from the Freemont Indians.


typical shape of a Freemont Indian figure


This Pictograph is know as the Daisy Chain because the figures are holding hands. These figures are approximatly 3′ tall


A big Thank YOU, My blog has literally exploded this week and I want to say Thanks!

I am overwhelmed with gratitude and love.

I started a summer series on my blog about the Art of Surrender, and since then my blog has finally been discovered.

I have worked hard, prayed, and dreamed that someday my Blog would be discovered.

Today, I want to say THANKS to all of you who have found me…

AND then honored me by hitting that infamous FOLLOW button.

My gift to all of you is a love letter filled with some of the wisdom I have picked up on the road of my life.


Dear Friends,

I write this love letter for you.

To you, I say love.

You are here to love.

To do anything other than love goes against all that you are.

Love everything and everyone—the light and the darkness, the bitter and the sweet.

Choose love over hate, pettiness, the need to be right, the illusion of financial security, and all the things that don’t even come close to LOVE.

Because, there are no do-overs in life.

You can’t erase the past or get back those moments that you missed so live now.

Know that each moment is a gift and an opportunity to live.

Run in the rain with the one that makes your heart sing when she beckons you to come enjoy life with her.

For that moment may be the last time you hold her hands, taste raindrops, and play like children with your beloved.

Kiss your love every chance you get.

Kiss them when you pick them up at the airport and every mile on your road trip,  because that may be the last trip.,

Know thyself!

You, spiritual-human beings, discover who you are.

You will know true love, happiness, success, wealth, well-being, peace, and joy when you know you.

As a child, you knew who you were until the world told you that you were someone else.

To fit in, conform, please others, get or not get attention, and grasp for love, you decided that you were not enough so you became someone else.

To know yourself is to love yourself.

So commit to you!

Obey your conscience and have the courage to be you.

You have a choice to be who you are or to make up a story about who you are and be that inauthentic self.


Take responsibility for your life: you are not a victim.

Life doesn’t happen to you.

Mind the seeds that you plant.

That is, your thoughts grow your reality.

Monitor every thought, carefully watching, and questioning its truth.

Thoughts are clever critters and will create drama.

Remember, you are not the thoughts in your head.

And, that which you do not master, masters you.

Be aware of those that live their lives filled with anger and malice, for they know not what they do.

Pray for them!

Love yourself enough to stand-up for you and also, accept responsibility for the role that you play.

I will leave you with this parting wisdom—be gentle with yourself, all things are temporary, judge not, and you can learn something from everyone you meet.


Again, thank you from the bottom of my heart for the support you are showing me on my writing journey!

The Art of Surrender Day 17: Surrender to your Purpose and Design

One of the strangest quirks of our life here on this planet is the fact that the one face we hardly ever see is the one closest to us:













As we move about in the world everyday, our face is always right before us…

Yet, always just beyond us.


Somebody should write a fairy tale about that!

It would be an allegory for how rarely we see ourselves, who we really are…

the good-real purpose and design

and the bad.

But in unexpected moments we sometimes get a sideways glance at ourselves, like when we pass by a plate-glass window downtown.

Most of the time, we do not like what we see.

Executives crowded into elevator










Think about elevators:

No one makes eye contact.

No one wants to acknowledge that we are seeing and being seen.

In that moment of forced intimacy, almost claustrophobic intimacy, we pretend we aren’t even there.


Most times we just don’t know what to do with what we are seeing…about ourselves, I mean.

It doesn’t take a Nobel prize winner to see that something dreadful has happened to the human race.

So rather than try to figure out what to do, or even what is happening…

We stare at the ceiling.

Or at our shoes.

We watch as the number report the passing floors.



Think about it friends…

This is how most of us approach our entire lives.

We hide what we can.

Work on what is redeemable.

And despise the rest.

There has to be a better way.

Yesterday, I spoke about surrendering to your tears.

I hope that I started making you think about the way you handle your emotions.

Because I honestly believe that we all crave goodness, whether we are aware of it or not.

Even in the Prison, where I worked for seven years, I could usually spot the desire for goodness in even the most horrible criminals, if I spent enough time talking to them.

In the depths of our being, we ache for goodness; WE ALL DO!

Our souls long for a sense of wholeness.

And in order to experience wholeness, we also need to understand goodness.

We are made for goodness, like we were made to breathe, and to love.

Goodness is the strength of our condition.



human goodness








Lets look at this idea for just a minute using some practical, everyday activities.

We exercise because we want to grow stronger.

We take vitamins in the hope of being healthy.

We attend language classes expecting to learn a new language.

We travel for adventure.

We work in the hopes of prospering.

We love partly in the hope of being loved.


So how does this have anything what – so – ever to do with SURRENDER?


From the very beginning God decided to shape our lives along a certain line.

The intended shape of our existence is made clear in the person of Jesus.

It is a MASSIVE undertaking, and notice that it requires restoration.

“The Son stands first in the line of the humanity that He restored.” (Romans 8:29)












Thus, the healing of the WHOLE man is made possible only when we are willing to surrender EVERYTHING to Him.

Our lives.

Our emotions.

Our beliefs.

Our desires.


Now lets jump toward the end of the New Testament ( which as we all know is the end of the Bible- the whole narrative is drawing to a close.)

The author of Hebrews is talking about God’s processes,

his ways with us- both what it feels like at times and…

more important, what the GOAL is:

(Hebrews 12:7-13)   

Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as his children. For what children are not disciplined by their father? If you are not disciplined—and everyone undergoes discipline—then you are not legitimate, not true sons and daughters at all. Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of spirits and live! 10 They disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in his holiness. 11 No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.

12 Therefore, strengthen your feeble arms and weak knees. 13 “Make level paths for your feet,”[a] so that the lame may not be disabled, but rather healed.


Follow this closely now:

God is working WITH us…




So that we might share in his Holiness.

Therefore, choose your way carefully, so that whatever is broken in you might be healed.

Severity is NOT the point.

Discipline is NOT the point either…

The point is the restoration of your purpose and design.

Whatever holiness truly is.

Whatever Surrender truly is,

The effect of it on us is HEALING.

It seems that much of what Christians believe they are called to these days is a cluster of activities that include…

Regular church attendance.

Bible study.



Concern for justice, etc.

Now- What is all that activity for?











What are all those things supposed to do to us, or in us?

If it’s not restoring the whole man, it may not even be in line with what God is doing.

Because that is clearly what he’s up to.

Lets go back to Jesus’ argument with the Pharisees, He says,

(Matthew 13:15)   For this people’s heart has become calloused; they hardly hear with their ears, and they have closed their eyes. Otherwise they might see with their eyes, hear with their ears, understand with their hearts and turn, and I would heal them.

Do you hear that offer?

I mean REALLY hear what he is offering?

Do you see what he is so upset about?

They have completely missed the point of what God is up to, what he is actually after in a person’s life: To heal him as a human being.

This is so essential to your understanding of Surrender.

This understanding can literally shape your own approach to Christianity,

Your convictions,


Yes, I believe with all my heart that God desires to help us with everything.

I believe He wants life for us.

But when we focus on fixing problems through our activity, what seems to be missing is the transformation of our character.

Don’t misunderstand me, God does care about our activities, and about  justice.

But to be frank, it is actually NOT the central theme of the Bible.

Christianity isn’t simply a religious version of the Peace Corps.

All of our activities are Christianity- Sort of.

Like elevator music is music- sort of.

Like veggie burgers are hamburgers- sort of.

Think wax fruit, gas fireplaces, frozen burritos.

They all look like the real thing, but…

It all really comes down to this: What is Surrender supposed to DO to a person?

(Ephesians 1:4)   According as he hath chosen us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before him in love

God wants to restore the creation that he made.

I am writing this series on surrender with the hope that you will discover the truth that I discovered when I made the decision to surrender my life to Him.

What I found was this:

When I recovered my vision of what holiness actually was, I became absolutely captured by it.

I began to see it as something completely desirable.

I had previously believed that holiness and surrender were things that I couldn’t possible attain.

But like King David, who was a man who knew his character flaws,

who felt regret,

and spent many a tormented night wrestling with his feelings,

And yet, in (Psalm 119)  He wrote,

” I run in the path of your commands, because you have set my heart free.”

I too, realized that He had prepared a pathway that made holiness and surrender entirely possible, and desirable for me.

Have you ever put those two things together before…

Freedom of Heart


Passionate pursuit of God’s commands?

The two go hand in hand.

Genuine Holiness restores human beings.

Restored human beings possess genuine holiness.

My Sacred Grounds

This post was beautiful, and was such a great companion for my post today that I simply HAD to share!

Lorrie Bowden


My heart was touched in a way that it never had been before

It felt sacred

The grounds told stories of souls who had gone before

There were many

It was not sadness

But tears fell down my face

First in a trickle

And then floodgates let loose the river that was cried

Near the river that carved the great canyon

The emotion was unlike any I had ever had before

Or have had since

Mere words can not describe the billowing raw emotion

that shook my heart

It was like my whole





Knew every other soul

In an instant

I knew their stories

I knew their hearts

I knew THEM

I accepted their love with open arms

And crying eyes

I was accepted the same

Because in an instant

I realized

we were

all the same

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The Art of Surrender Day 16: Surrendering to Tears

Crying is a secret sacred place, a place of solitude.

It’s not a space we navigate with much finesse; there are few maps on how to cry.

tear filled eye







Many conflicting feelings arise around tears.

Fear of looking weak.

Fear of being too emotional.

Guilt for making others feel bad.

Relief at sharing pent-up thoughts.

Or, joy at being seen in our truth.

To cry is to render your heart naked, undefended & utterly exposed to the world.

No wonder it is shrouded in so much terror, secrecy and shame.

Only human beings cry.

Other creatures do have tears, that is, their eyes release liquid in response to dust, wind & other irritants.

But only humans -with their unique ability to feel into what’s possible- can cry from actual emotions.

Why do we cry?

There are many ways to tell the history of tears.

Here’s one possible narrative that I completely invented in my own mind. I use this explanation to tell my kids how important it is that they are honest and comfortable expressing their feelings.

So here is my theory on the history of tears…


With water being such a coveted resource, and eyesight being our main defense against harm, why would evolution ‘waste’ good liquid and compromise our vision?

What is the benefit?

Nature must get a payoff for every cost.

I suspect, when humans gathered around the fire to share stories with their tribe, an emergent system arose wherein any member experiencing,




or any strong feeling,

would be exposed with one unmistakable indicator of emotional intensity: tears.

early humans around fire







Feelings are internal and can often be hidden.

But tears are external and thus seen by others.

They are explicit visual ques that indicate: this individual needs help.

A bleeding cut on your body says “pay attention, do something to heal the wound”.

Similarly, tears say the “tribe” is bleeding through the tender heart of one member, “pay attention, go and help”.


There must have been a time when tears flowed freely from human beings.

A time when they were a clear signal for support.

Every new baby cries. Often their howls and tears are the only way we can discern their needs.


child crying








Children cry honestly when they require something important.

But at some point those real tears get decoded by another person as something other than an S.O.S.

They get shamed, even punished.

And in that moment the inherent dignity of tears are lost.

From then on, our tears get pushed down and cast out as a native form of communication.

We now live in a world where tears are rarely seen as noble, rarely held as sacred, rarely honored as the most authentic expression of a soul longing to be heard.


Tears…your tears, are the way your body shows you what’s important to you.

Holding them back is a form of self-deception and a withhold of your deepest truth.

When I feel that familiar proto-tear sensation rising up in my throat, I know I always have a choice in that moment: to cry or…to lie.

Every uncried tear is a lost epiphany, a missed lesson, a moment that failed at aliveness.


Learning to appreciate and understand this was a huge step in me learning to surrender my life to God.

Each time you cry you release ancient tears from all the moments you didn’t let yourself cry in the past.

No tear is ever wasted,  I like to think that each one holds in it’s liquid infinity, 10 years worth of therapeutic salve.

Knowing this, I now look forward to opportunities to cry…

once the portal is open, I let as many drops out as I can.

The more I cry, the more alive I feel.

Tears teach us what we actually care about, they point at what matters the most, they take us back to a place of innocence & transparency.

Tears lead us home.

When the people in my life see me cry, they know that they are extremely important to me. That I am trusting them, in that moment with my heart, that is completely open to them.

Crying, as I see it, is beyond judgment.

Funded by any number of emotions, tears are neither good nor bad.

They are simply our response to the intensity of being alive.


The other thing I often tell my kids is that tears are an indication that your body is so full of emotions that some of those feelings are leaking out of their eyes.

I suspect that wise, enlightened hearts live most of their lives one thought away from tears.

They allow themselves to feel things fully, and completely. This, I believe, is the source of their wisdom.







To be moved is to be tender-hearted.

Cynics never sob.

Only one who feels epic emotions and cares deeply about something has the ability to cry.

It feels dramatic, poetic to be SO alive.

Tears are the most appropriate response to life & love, when they’re fully experienced.

Recently a friend and I shared some painful stories about historic heart breaks.

The space was safe enough for both of us to feel into some un-felt feelings and let them surface.

As soon as her eyes welled up, mine followed in empathic resonance.

As is the case with all shared tears, we found each other again, but at a new level of intimacy.

Few things breed kinship like the ancient fellowship of tears.

Next time you feel the intensity of life moving through your body via strong sensations that take discipline to attend to and concentration to hold, I invite you to surrender to the urge to express.

Let go of the facade, “I’m fine” or “it’s no big deal”, leave out your apology.

I dare you to consciously make space for your true feelings to occupy the canvas;

Give them the paintbrush and allow them to create a masterpiece.

Feelings rise up from your unconscious mind to teach you something.

Honor them with your listening.

If you can abandon yourself to the felt truth of your experience, you might feel that familiar tension at the back of your throat, that proto-tears state.

I highly recommend you take yourself on a journey through that secret space.

Go for a swim through your own emotions.

With practice you can map this sacred terrain, where crying is your compass for what’s good, true and beautiful.

Become a cartographer of your own heart.


cartogropher of your heart







And every time you cry, remember this:

you are embarking on a series of revelations.

So keep your mind wide and your heart open.

Your identity is also at stake; we say who we are by what makes us cry…

Staying with your somatic sensations while having an emotion will take you to places beyond your imagination.

You’ll meet parts of your heart you never even knew existed.

If you are willing to hold the possibility that tears might be your most profound teacher, then crying will become an education about the contours of your own soul.

Let the tyranny of tears invoke your most tender truths.

Surrender to your tears.

And let’s choose crying over lying, at last.