“It costs too much to be a full human being that there are very few who have the courage to pay the price. One has to abandon altogether the search for security and reach out to the risk of living with both arms. One has to embrace life-like a lover.”
Today I want to write about the things in life that we ATTACH ourselves to, and why letting go of those attachments can set your life on FIRE!
Like many fairy tale stories, the tale of Rapunzel has a deeper meaning to it.
It is really a story about self-image.
She is a young lady, locked in a tower, imprisoned by a witch who constantly tells her how ugly she is.
One day a handsome prince passes the tower and tells her how lovely she is. So she lets down her hair so he can climb it and rescue her.
It is neither the castle or the witch that has kept her a prisoner, but the belief in her own ugliness.
Once she recognized her beauty, reflected in the face of the Prince, she recognizes the fact that she can be set free.
We all hold ourselves prisoner by allowing the “witch” inside our minds to hold us prisoner.
We allow people or situations to “contain” us for fear that if we move outside of the box they are holding us in, we might fail… at least inside this box, we have some predictability. This is the lie that hold us prisoner.
What if, you let go of your attachment to predictability and gave fate a chance?
Our happiness and our free self-expression is much more assured if we can let go of end results; work toward our goals and NOT be imprisoned by them.
We love the people who are the least concerned about making an impression. They have let go of any desperation for affection, so they can now automatically have that very thing; affection!
People who make lots of money have usually started to make that money when they stopped WORKING for it! In other words, they find something they love to do and devote their attention to that thing, and the money begins to flow automatically.
Brenda and I are seeing this in our painting business.
Once we decided to let go of the fear that people would laugh at us, or that we would fail…once we “killed the witch“ inside our head, Humpty Dumpty Mural magic began to make us money, and continues to grow rapidly.
In a sense we need to be able to live without something in order to have it. Once we can let go, we place ourselves in a position of great power. Successful businessmen have counseled for years that the secret to securing that BIG DEAL is to release the deal- to become totally un-attached.
Once we have done the work, whether it is work on ourself image, on our family, on our career, our love life, whatever..it is time to relax, and just let the results happen in their own time.
You need to trust and have faith!
If you go out and plant a tomato crop, and then keep digging up the seeds every twenty minutes to see if they are doing their “THING” you will NEVER get to sit and enjoy a ripe, juicy, red tomato fresh off the vine.
We all need to learn to relax a while. Let nature take its course.
Life is dynamic.
That is what makes it so beautiful and also so unpredictable.
Let change prod you into action.
Do all the work necessary, and then RELAX!
“You are a part of the universe, no less than the stars and trees, and you have a right to be here. And whether it is clear to you or not, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should” Desiderata
Life in itself has no real value.
Just because you are here does not mean that our lives have any value.
Ultimately, only we decide whether our Time here on Earth will be a time of joy, or whether we will be trapped in the tower our whole life.
We get to choose to either allow the witch inside our own mind to convince us that we deserve to be trapped and then go on miserably living our lives alone and isolated.
If we are going to let down our hair.
See our greatness reflected in the faces of our loved ones, our Savior, and ourselves, and set ourselves free.
So in conclusion, I just want to remind you that, life was not intended to be easy.
Struggle is the only way to grow. You can’t build a muscle until you put it under pressure, and the same is true of our mentality.
In loving and caring we risk. Telling another person , “I love you” can be risky business, but the rewards can be fantastic.
Being different is risky. But, it can also mean that you can be yourself.
The dangerous and difficult occupations are well rewarded. In fact, the universe is continually encouraging us to stretch, to climb, to be extraordinary!
To gain, we must risk.
To learn to walk, we must risk falling and getting hurt.
To make a dollar we must risk losing it, and the people who make the most, risk the most.
To have a chance of winning the race, we must also risk losing it..
We really do have a choice in life…
Stay in the tower…
Life itself is a risk…so lets all go out there today, give thanks for all our blessings, and climb out on that limb and pick some fruit!
God Bless you this Thanksgiving.
“If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, ‘thank you,’ that would suffice.”
I love this quote and want to use it as the starting point for my blog today.
Yesterday I talked about having a thankful heart.
So today I want to expand on that idea, after all, this is the week we celebrate Thanksgiving.
Many days, I try to humble myself and hold a 2-minute gratitude session. I simply sit or kneel, with no distractions, close my eyes, and think about what I’m grateful for and who I’m grateful for.
I don’t do it every day, but let me tell you, on the days I do, it makes me very happy.
It seems that the longer I commit to this practice, the more I find myself looking forward to it, and the less I forget to take this time each morning for gratitude.
Why should that be?
Why should the simple act of thinking about who and what I’m grateful for make such a big difference in my life?
Just a few reasons:
Because it reminds you of the positive things in your life.
Because it turns bad things into good things.
Because it reminds you of what’s important.
Because it reminds you to thank others.
Taking time before I start my day to just quietly pay attention to the blessings in my life, literally prevents me from getting stuck in that “Pity Party” mental attitude that would be so easy for me to slip into.
There are days when the task of being a single mother with four children to feed and provide for seems like an insurmountable task to me.
No matter how hard I work, there never seems to be enough money to cover all the needs of my family.
Providing for 5 people all by yourself can be an overwhelming job at times.
So, as you can see, the reality of my life, like so many of yours, is a life of constant worry and struggle.
That is why no matter how busy I am, or how long my TO-DO-LIST is, I always make time for my two-minute GRATITUDE SESSION.
What do I give thanks for, privately, in my little gratitude session?
It varies every day. But some of the common things that seem to come up every day for me are:
I thank my loved ones, for all they do to me. I have been blessed to have a wonderful, loving and supportive family, and I thank God for them daily. I am also surrounded by amazing friends who support and encourage me in my dreams.
I thank strangers who’ve shown me little acts of kindness. These acts of kindness are to me, like Angels from Heaven stopping by to let me know I am loved.
I thank God, for the life he’s given me. I thank him for giving me another day in this world. I thank him for providing me the opportunities that have allowed me to be a good provider for my children.
I thank people around the world for the things they’ve done to make the world better. I give thanks to the Military for the protections they provide to us every day.
How to Live a Life of Gratitude
The thing is, simple acts of gratitude don’t cost you much (especially once you get over the initial discomfort some people feel with thanking others). But they can make a huge difference.
If you’re interested in living a life of gratitude, here are my suggestions:
- Morning gratitude session.
- Take 2-3 minutes each morning to give thanks, to whoever or whatever you’re grateful for. You don’t have to do anything, other than close your eyes and silently give thanks. This one-act can make a huge difference.
- Say thank you. When someone does something nice for you, however small, try to remember to say thank you. And really mean it.
- Give thanks for “negative” things in your life. There’s always two ways to look at something. Many times we think of something as negative — it’s stressful, harmful, sad, unfortunate, difficult. But that same thing can be looked at in a more positive way. Giving thanks for those things is a great way to remind yourself that there is good in just about everything. Problems can be seen as opportunities to grow, to be creative. I am going to end this blog today with one of my favorite Gratitude Prayers. The Author is Unknown, so I don’t know who to give thanks to for this prayer, but there are days when this prayer is the best I can do during my morning ritual because, lets face it, there are days when it really doesn’t feel like there is anything to be thankful for.
Be thankful that you don’t already have everything you desire,
If you did, what would there be to look forward to?
Be thankful when you don’t know something
For it gives you the opportunity to learn.
Be thankful for the difficult times.
During those times you grow.
Be thankful for your limitations
Because they give you opportunities for improvement.
Be thankful for each new challenge
Because it will build your strength and character.
Be thankful for your mistakes
They will teach you valuable lessons.
Be thankful when you’re tired and weary
Because it means you’ve made a difference.
It is easy to be thankful for the good things.
A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are
also thankful for the setbacks.
GRATITUDE can turn a negative into a positive.
Find a way to be thankful for your troubles
and they can become your blessings.
~ Author Unknown ~
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